What is codependency?
Codependency can be difficult to identify, hard to put a finger on, and most people struggle to define what it means.
Codependency is when one person (or both people) in a relationship frequently put the needs of the relationship (and it’s survival) before their own needs.
The fear of the relationship falling apart prevents that person from prioritizing their own needs. Commonly, this develops from family of origin circumstances or early childhood trauma, and over time will likely develop into anxiety and a deep, underlying belief of not being good enough. This commonly leads to a person who’s only concept of love, and only knowing how to experience love or attachment that is conditional. When this is reality, it’s easy to minimize one’s own needs if those needs present a threat to the relationship. Unconsciously, the pattern becomes an internal battle to avoid being left and alone, forced to feel the overwhelming painful feelings of being unworthy of love, or not good enough. This can look and feel like a roller coaster, existing of extreme highs and lows.
Codependency can become problematic and be seen in romantic relationships, but it can also be present in familial relationships (between siblings, parent/child, etc) platonic friendships, relationships at work, or with anyone in our communities.
I specialize in helping people with codependent tendencies and patterns heal their relationship with themselves, understand their past experiences that contributed to present pain, and to determine and maintain healthy boundaries in their lives and developing new patterns. I help people navigate their journey to having healthy and fulfilling relationships with others.
If you believe you may have codependent tendencies, or are in a relationship with someone who you think may, please contact me. I offer a unique but effective approach when working with people addressing codependent habits, and would be happy to discuss if this approach might be right for you. Call or email me today.